http://stacycat.com/2009/08/24/gender-and-queer/ Kinky Quirkyslut Changing the World Mon, 09 Aug 2010 07:06:25 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 http://stacycat.com/2009/08/24/gender-and-queer/comment-page-1/#comment-606 lilblackdress Tue, 25 Aug 2009 15:26:01 +0000 http://stacycat.com/?p=185#comment-606 I am physically obviously female, but when I was younger, I played with my gender identity. Sometimes, I liked being identified as male, just because I could then express my natural tendencies without feeling awkward. I was surrounded by adults that would tell me that being dominant, aggressive, and assertive was not "lady-like", which are all traits I exhibit. My cisgender male homemaker lover notes that although I no longer attempt to hide my sex, I like dressing up in male-associated clothing (like hats, jackets, and ties) and take on traditionally male roles, such as being the sole breadwinner. He tells me that those traits were what attracted him to me. Yesterday, we had a lengthy discussion about gender roles and expectations; we both agreed that it's a shame that society tries so hard to put us into little buckets of behavior and talents based on our gender... especially since we've found happiness and great skill in roles that break traditional gender roles. I am physically obviously female, but when I was younger, I played with my gender identity. Sometimes, I liked being identified as male, just because I could then express my natural tendencies without feeling awkward. I was surrounded by adults that would tell me that being dominant, aggressive, and assertive was not “lady-like”, which are all traits I exhibit. My cisgender male homemaker lover notes that although I no longer attempt to hide my sex, I like dressing up in male-associated clothing (like hats, jackets, and ties) and take on traditionally male roles, such as being the sole breadwinner. He tells me that those traits were what attracted him to me. Yesterday, we had a lengthy discussion about gender roles and expectations; we both agreed that it’s a shame that society tries so hard to put us into little buckets of behavior and talents based on our gender… especially since we’ve found happiness and great skill in roles that break traditional gender roles.

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