StacyCat’s World of Thought

Besides, ya know, the obvious.

A Post on HeartFullofBlack really put into words what sex positivity can do for people.
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“I’ve learned that its OK to want things, or to want things to be a certain way, and that there is nothing wrong with asking for that.

I’ve also learned that its ok to communicate my wants and needs that was as well, along with accepting that its ok for me to HAVE wants and needs, and that my feelings, thoughts and what not are valid. (I’ve got a fairly fucked up dating history. I know I should have figured all this out well before now, but I’m on a learning curve)

I’ve also learned that its also perfectly valid for others to have these same things, that I need to respect them, and that’s all good.

And that weird awkward conversations aren’t always weird, awkward, or nearly as bad as they are in my mind.”
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Sex positive is not about what we do or who we are. One can be sex positive and only have one partner their entire lives, others of us come to sex positivity after sleeping with many people.

Sex positivity allows us to communicate with our partners, and our partners to communicate with us. One of my lovers mentioned that he could feel free with me, because I had slept with so many other men that he felt that I had either seen almost everything, or would at least be open to anything that would happen

So, only sleep with sex positive people Or, at least, people working on becoming more sex positive, as its not an end goal that we much achieve before getting the ring of sluttiness.

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